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Wedding Vows
Topic Started: Tue Apr 27, 2010 3:44 am (617 Views)
Mojochi
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No, I'm not getting married :p

Just sort of curious as to what people think of them, what theirs were, if any, or what they might like them to be. You know, maybe spark a discussion about them. So?
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VioletCloud
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Writing my own vows scares the junk out of me!

I dont usually like to share like that infront of others...

Ive only actually seen people write their own vows on TV and Movies... it makes for a good emotional moment!
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Ltpondwater9
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Depends on the person, the time and the type of ceremony.

Then again I don't plan on planning to get married again.
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I think mine were a smashing pumpkin song that was modified.

The standard ones say the important stuff for public consumption, imo. If I were to come up with anything beautiful enough for my wife, I would be highly motivated to only share in private.
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Mojochi
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Ltpondwater9
Apr 27 2010, 03:57 PM
Depends on the person, the time and the type of ceremony.

Then again I don't plan on planning to get married again.

You're not planning on getting married, or you're not planning on planning it, if ever you do? I'm confused now? :lol:

Anyway, to Violet's point about tv & movie weddings, that's what sparked the topic. I think there has been an alteration in what people consider vows, in modern times, & that alteration could very well have been instigated by tv & movie writers

"Writing your own vows" has come to mean saying anything you want, as long as it's somehow thoughtful, romantic, memorable, & personally expressive of your feelings. Those are all terrific things, & certainly they can belong in your wedding. It's your day, share what you feel, whenever the hell you feel like it. In fact... do that the rest of your lives

However, one of the bigger tv oddities I keep coming back to is Jack's "Vows" to Sarah, on LOST, which is the quintessential example of what I mean. Sure, it's one of the more touching moments in his story arc, & he gets all teary & pours his heart out, but by the end, the only vow he makes is "I love you Sarah, & I always will". To his credit, he never broke that vow, but it didn't save his marriage, & sort of made the post-marriage period rather uncomfortable

Now, I'm by no means a traditionalist, & am all for creating your own statement, but the reason traditional vows have worked well, is because they got a lot of the right stuff in there (Depending on the version)

I guess my point is that the vows are supposed to be a pledge, where you promise to be & do what you think is your part of a marriage, right?

Perhaps it's the ultimate time to lay on the line what you think a marriage should be, because god knows how many people get past that moment & still have no idea what each other expects
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thats true! I never really thought about it, but they never make actual vows... they ramble on about love for a few minutes and close with I love you...
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Mojochi
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You know, none of the traditional vows cover everything either, imo. Some are even kind of vague. WTF is "to have & to hold, from this day forward"?

I'm sorry, but I won't holding you every second, from now until we die. Lay off the poetic context, when you're making promises :lol:
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I'm not a traditionalist at all, but if I ever get married I'll probably go with the standard vows for the simple reason that I'm not exactly creative/eloquant and would most likely fail epically if I tried to write my own. I'm sure I'd already be nervous/stressed enough without worrying about sounding like more of an idiot than usual in front of a large group of people.
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A vow ?? As Bill and Ted put it; "Be excellent to each other, and party on dudes !!" :violet:
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magentastorm
Apr 28 2010, 03:55 AM
I'm not a traditionalist at all, but if I ever get married I'll probably go with the standard vows for the simple reason that I'm not exactly creative/eloquant and would most likely fail epically if I tried to write my own. I'm sure I'd already be nervous/stressed enough without worrying about sounding like more of an idiot than usual in front of a large group of people.

sorry babes but i think you are wrong, you do very well experessing yourself here, i dont think you would be any different in real life. imho :hugs:
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there's a site with wedding
vows for many religions
All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.--Abraham Lincoln
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Apr 29 2010, 11:48 AM
magentastorm
Apr 28 2010, 03:55 AM
I'm not a traditionalist at all, but if I ever get married I'll probably go with the standard vows for the simple reason that I'm not exactly creative/eloquant and would most likely fail epically if I tried to write my own. I'm sure I'd already be nervous/stressed enough without worrying about sounding like more of an idiot than usual in front of a large group of people.

sorry babes but i think you are wrong, you do very well experessing yourself here, i dont think you would be any different in real life. imho :hugs:

Thanks, that's sweet of you. :)

Believe me though, I am terrible at conversation in real life. I very much prefer writing/typing my thoughts so I have time to think before saying something.

But perhaps you are right, I probably would be able to summon up something makes sense for something that important. :)
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Live long and prosper.....!!

magentastorm
Apr 30 2010, 09:51 AM
trekslut69
Apr 29 2010, 11:48 AM
magentastorm
Apr 28 2010, 03:55 AM
I'm not a traditionalist at all, but if I ever get married I'll probably go with the standard vows for the simple reason that I'm not exactly creative/eloquant and would most likely fail epically if I tried to write my own. I'm sure I'd already be nervous/stressed enough without worrying about sounding like more of an idiot than usual in front of a large group of people.

sorry babes but i think you are wrong, you do very well experessing yourself here, i dont think you would be any different in real life. imho :hugs:

Thanks, that's sweet of you. :)

Believe me though, I am terrible at conversation in real life. I very much prefer writing/typing my thoughts so I have time to think before saying something.

But perhaps you are right, I probably would be able to summon up something makes sense for something that important. :)

I believe that in such ceremonies, the couple are allowed to read crib-sheets (with the vows on them), so they don't make a turnip of themselves by forgetting !!
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Mojochi
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I've seen that too. I'm sure lots of people are nervous, & also plenty of folks who don't speak well in public, so I'm sure no one would think less of someone who read from a card

I was also wondering what everyone thought about reciting a pledge in unison. They could still say their own words too, but then for the actual vows, it could be something they both say together. Seems like it would be very fitting to recognize the union by saying a kind of oath together

Or is that too corny? Like something Klingons would do :lol:
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I like it Mojo!!


I think Klingons just yowl together... haha
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Live long and prosper.....!!

Think there's some kind of biting and blood-letting involved, dunno what Klingons do though !! :violet:
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DNesh
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I just thought of my wedding vows if I ever take the plunge.......'Tag, your it'.

I like to keep it simple....... _lmao_
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For our wedding, we wrote our own vows and used a traditional sort of vows - but not the "in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer" bit. I wasn't big on writing our own vows, but my husband really wanted to so we did. What he wrote was lovely, and made me and a lot of other people cry. What I wrote was mediocre. (I was too busy planning the rest of the wedding!)

These are the "traditional" vows we used (not very traditional, but at least the traditional format):

Minister to Bride: 
Do you ____________, knowing this man's love for you and returning it, realizing his strengths and learning from them, recognizing his weaknesses and helping him to overcome them, take ____________ to be your lawfully wedded husband?
Bride:
 I do.
Minister:
 Place the ring on his finger.
Minister to Groom:
 Do you ____________, knowing this woman's love for you and returning it, realizing her strengths and learning form them, recognizing her weaknesses and helping her to overcome them, take ____________ to be your lawfully wedded wife?
Groom:
 I do.
Minister:
 Place the ring on her finger.
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good point. The groom usually has an unfair advantage

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