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may	Jul 30 2006, 08:16 AM
Unregistered	to a believer only dating other believers! It is so important to guard the heart (which is the wellspring of life) in male/female relationships and to keep all purity! I once heard a very wise person say that we should only date a person we are considering for marriage. In order to do this, there must be a solid foundation of friendship first, and fellowshipping in groups accomplishes this with accountability. Recently I read a book called "Not Without My Daughter"- it is a true account by the author (it was also made into a movie). I don't want to give the story away, but a Christian woman married a non-Christian, and she and her daughter found themselves trapped and held hostage in a foreign country. I will not give any more of the story away in case any of you want to read the book or watch the movie. Also, I want to reiterate how important it is to know for sure that a person you are dating is truly a Christian, and preferrably a mature Christian. At one point earlier in my walk with Jesus, I was friends with a man who I thought was Christian. He claimed to be Christian, went to church, and read the Bible. I learned a lot from this relationship. Mostly throught mistakes! And one led to the next... We had spent a little time in groups, but one day he invited me to volunteer on a farm. The morning we were supposed to go, I had a dream right before I woke up. In the dream, I became aware that I had actually made a date because there was not a third person going to be with us. So in my dream, I tried to call so I could cancel the plans.... Then when I woke up (watch how insidiously the enemy works), a thought crossed my mind, "You can't cancel these plans at the last minute- that would be rude!". I wonder who put that thought there!! So I went. Mistake #1 Well, I won't bore you with the long story of what all happened during the next 6 months, but during that time there were other mistakes made that could have been avoided if I had acted in obedience following that dream. I learned that just because a person reads the Bible and prays and goes to church, it does not necessarily mean that the person is Christian! The Sadducees and Pharisees did all that, and yet they did not have the spirit of God in their hearts. It is so important to guard the heart and to obey the word and use wisdom with all relationships. Choosing a mate is the second most important decision a person makes in their lifetime- the first is choosing to be with Christ for our eternal afterlife, the second is choosing your mate for the rest of this lifetime. The hardest thing I suffered during this time of making mistakes was how it effected my relationship with Jesus, because I got hurt and my heart started to harden. I also started to lose faith and hope that the Lord had anyone out there who he was preparing me for or preparing me to be with as far as marriage. So I also learned a lot about forgiveness, but the pain I experienced just drove me straight to Jesus- I spent a lot of time alone with the Lord. I still believe that His perfect will would have been to spare me of all this, but He does give us free will and allows us to stumble. I pray in Jesus' name that everyone reading this post will learn from this testimony, and may the fruits of love and patience from the Spirit sustain you until God brings your mate in His perfect timing so that your hearts will be protected and whole. Then your marriage will be so very blessed! Love and joy to all of you, May
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