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Rambles of the Bored; Don't read if you're not bored like hell
Topic Started: Jul 28 2006, 09:25:40 PM (365 Views)
Panukeku
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la la la~ la la~ with you-ou-ou...~

Well this topic is really nothing special. I'm just bored like crazy at the moment and there's a thousand frustrations that I can't say to anyone IRL right now. And since I don't really know anyone here I'd be glad to hear what people are saying.. ^_^' weird ne? I know...well here goes. And if anyone has their own problems that are getting to them they can post it here too @_@.

Warning: This is an entire waste of time, if you have something to do or other topics to go to first I suggest you do so ^_^''

Well it begins with that I have to go to this 'boot camp' on Sunday for three weeks. And as I say to my friend it'll be something sort of like three weeks of hell for me. I have yet to contact my major- but I'm scared of my major, I mean, she's an actual major from the army after all and it's like- how do I even talk to her? I mean I know I'm supposed to call her 'mam' and all that but I can't but forget my mind on how to remember all the little itsy bitsy procedures. I mean holy crap she's a major! am I even making sense? Well- in short, I'm not too keen to call her. It's scary, even though she's nice it's still scary.

And for another thing I just had an argument with my dad yesterday because until yesterday I didn't know if I should go to camp. It's retarded if you're looking from your screen but I don't know why everytime my dad yells at me I cry. Sometimes I'm not even crying...or...well... I don't even want to cry. And I'm definately not crying inside but I just can't stop the tears outside. I ended up getting nearly smacked and punished to sit in a seat for two hours. And that's the reason why I decided I want to go to boot camp- I mean, training there with their harsh regulations and stuff...It's bound to make me stronger isn't it? Mentally?

I'm also too lazy to start going through that 15 pages of PDF about what to bring and what not to bring and the rules and regulations and I'm starting to regret saying I'm going to camp at all. But I can't go back now, I mean- my dad would yell at me again. I don't understand whymy dad yells at me all the time. I understand what my friend said about parents sometimes have a different perspective of how to teach their children and that's not the problem. But my dad, it's like he tells me about one thing or another ANYTIME we're alone. I mean, eating lunch/dinner, driving to school. He tells me how unorganized I am, how undecisive I am, how to cure all that. The point is- no, it's not 'curing' me it's like he preaches me -no offence to religious people- all the time. I'm sick of it. I know what he's going to say. And I know what he's going to reply when I tell him anything of what he tells me again and again. So I stay quiet and pretend I'm listening. I mean I am listening, to hear if he has any new things to say. But he doesn't. And then he asks me 'are you listening?' I mean of course I'm listening, you'd bury me six-feet under if I said I wasn't. I don't understand. At times he treats me like a 3 year old, like when he tells me he wants to hug me or sit next to him or shove a bum on the couch. And at other times like planning to go to camp and everything he treats me like a 30 year old and lets me plan everything myself.

I mean holy sh*t. I know I'm sounding biased right now- and I do love my dad and he's still a good dad. It's just I don't know what to do when it happens. I don't WANT to anger him, I don't WANT to fight with him. Hell, I hate it when I cry because I can't breathe properly, my mind revolves around the problem (and the problem is amplified by like a million times.) and my whole body grows numb. Literally, my hands, feet, everything starts getting the numb dotty sensation.

-sigh-

And now to the other part. I don't understand my friends. I mean dear fish, why are they telling me that thisthisthis person is talking behind my back? I don't want to understand my friends' politics. I mean if we're a group of people as friends why the hell are we talking behind each other's backs? Why are we telling each other that we are? Do you-nobody in the forum- WANT to break this friendship? Do you WANT me to talk behind her back in return? What's your point? What are you trying to say? Why can't the world just go by peacefully without hating somebody- especially people that are your friends? Or are they friends?

What are friends anyways?

I mean they're certainly not people you can trust your secrets to. They're certainly not people you trust? I thought differently, I want to think differently but I'm sick of it. I mean holy sh*t, does it make you feel good when you talk about people? What about people that are your friends? What- you don't mean harm? What bullshit, then what's the fishing point of you saying it in the first place? Why can't people just say what they want outright so that people can understand them? Why do we have to keep guessing at this and that? Why? Is this the fabled reality of the world? No wonder there's emos out there that cut themselves, I nearly cut myself on the arm yesterday as well.


Feeling better. =.= wooo.... (sigh)
I hope I didn't break any rules posting this. o_O. If I did please tell me and I'll censor something or whatnot.
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Take a step back from whatever you're frustrated over.

Contemplate on how to attack your frustrations. At the moment you may be overwhelmed with the problems that you've encountered so far. Break them down into little pieces and deal with each problem on its own. It won't be as frightening as a shark riding an elephant charging at you, eating everything in its path.

If it's something that you can't solve right away, take a break, have some ice cream, listen to music, talk bout funny things with friends over MSN, and calm down. Remember that when you're taking your frustrations out on yourself, there are people who worry about you.

If all else fails, go exercise. Go out for a summer jog with your neighburrito...

 
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Do what Orange Toast said^^

Reason of why your dad do the way he is to you is mainly he think you still young, and he is also trying to let you on your own do something he feel you could handle.

For your problem, you can write down what the problem(s) are.
Break them down into little pieces like Orange Toast said.
plan how to resolve it, sometime you find hard to talk to some ppl you could try write to them.

take break when frustrations come.

go here look at mashimaro
http://www2u.homeip.net/mashimaro/

And remember problem would go away if you ignore them but it will if you face it and find solution. Time is always on you hand and there always a way out :)
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ryon
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lol... +1

but it's good you get your frustrations out....

and don't worry...you'll come out if physically and mentally stronger ya?...lol

hmm...have you tried explain to him how you're feeling? and stilll whatever your father does...u know it's cos he loves you rite?

take care yea...

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But my dad, it's like he tells me about one thing or another ANYTIME we're alone. I mean, eating lunch/dinner, driving to school. He tells me how unorganized I am, how undecisive I am, how to cure all that. The point is- no, it's not 'curing' me it's like he preaches me -no offence to religious people- all the time. I'm sick of it. I know what he's going to say. And I know what he's going to reply when I tell him anything of what he tells me again and again. So I stay quiet and pretend I'm listening. I mean I am listening, to hear if he has any new things to say. But he doesn't. And then he asks me 'are you listening?' I mean of course I'm listening, you'd bury me six-feet under if I said I wasn't. I don't understand. At times he treats me like a 3 year old, like when he tells me he wants to hug me or sit next to him or shove a bum on the couch. And at other times like planning to go to camp and everything he treats me like a 30 year old and lets me plan everything myself.

I mean holy sh*t. I know I'm sounding biased right now- and I do love my dad and he's still a good dad. It's just I don't know what to do when it happens. I don't WANT to anger him, I don't WANT to fight with him. Hell, I hate it when I cry because I can't breathe properly, my mind revolves around the problem (and the problem is amplified by like a million times.) and my whole body grows numb. Literally, my hands, feet, everything starts getting the numb dotty sensation.

I can understand the anger and fustration you have built up inside. I am a lot like that too during some days when there are so many things going on and constant problems during the day. But you know what? It all works out in the end.

I have an issue like the one you have with your dad too. It's been like a hate and love relationship that I got with my dad. Sometimes he say things that will trigger a lot of anger in me and sometimes he does without realizing it will really hurt me. The more and more we argue and fight everyday, I find it almost like a regular routine that happens in my life and now I have adapted. There are times when I cry myself to sleep and not having anyone to talk to because of this. Sure I have friends and a boyfriend who loves me, but with the things that goes in the family and with my dad, it's harder than what people can resolve. Now that my dad is getting older, I have gotten better with talking to him calmy and most times I ignore what he says, so that we won't have conflicts. It has gotten better and now that I'm back with living with my family, I want to make good times for the bad times I've had in the past with them. I DO LOVE my dad with all my heart as well. There are boundaries that he goes over.. All I want from him is acceptance and still that is slowly progressing. :P

In a nutshell, what I'm trying to say here is that, the reason why parents are like that is because they love you. They do it to better yourself. I'm sure they were a lot like you when they were your age. :swt So hopefully things goes better for you. Don't ever think you're the only one going through this, I'm sure we all have gone through the same. :flower Everything is going to be okay! *HUGS*
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Panukeku
Jul 28 2006, 04:25 PM
I don't understand whymy dad yells at me all the time. I understand what my friend said about parents sometimes have a different perspective of how to teach their children and that's not the problem. But my dad, it's like he tells me about one thing or another ANYTIME we're alone. I mean, eating lunch/dinner, driving to school. He tells me how unorganized I am, how undecisive I am, how to cure all that. The point is- no, it's not 'curing' me it's like he preaches me -no offence to religious people- all the time. I'm sick of it. I know what he's going to say. And I know what he's going to reply when I tell him anything of what he tells me again and again. So I stay quiet and pretend I'm listening. I mean I am listening, to hear if he has any new things to say. But he doesn't. And then he asks me 'are you listening?

Now that I think about it, that sound EXACTLY like my dad when I was your age. Once you start uni your parents won't nag at you that often anymore.
 
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hopefully these things will past. keep looking ahead and just tell yourself the days will turn out for the better.
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