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More "psycho-babble"........; from the O & E
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fyi	Feb 26 2006, 11:48 AM Post #1
Principal Posts: 2,738 Group: Members Member #206 Joined: December 9, 2005	More "psycho-babble" from today's Observer: http://www.hometownlife.com/apps/pbcs.dll/...505/1103/NEWS10 Plan ahead to manage change My son is in fourth grade in Livonia. This means that next year he will be moving to a new school as part of the new Legacy Initiative. I mentioned this to him once and he got upset and said he didn't want to go. Should I continue to talk to him about this as the year goes on or wait until the summer? I don't want him to be stressed out about it all year long, but I don't know if he will feel blindsided by it if I wait too long. What do you think? Unsure in Livonia Change can be very stressful. It is not unusual to experience significant levels of anxiety and insecurity. If the change is beyond our direct control, feelings of helplessness, frustration and victimization may result. The key to successful transitions is preparation and planning. This means addressing it before it happens and making a plan of action. Even though this change is months away, it is not too soon to discuss. I believe that the most beneficial time to address concerns is as soon as they are identified. This allows sufficient time to study the alternatives and develop an effective plan of action. Having an idea of what is to come and a sense of preparation can dramatically reduce the amount of worry and apprehension that is experienced. Encourage your son to talk with peers and find out how they are feeling. This will help to normalize his own emotions and thoughts. Sometimes, just knowing that others have similar feelings is enough to reduce our own negative emotions. I would also encourage you to speak with other parents, teachers, and school personnel to learn as much about this proposed transition as possible. Then, you may find yourself in a better position to help your son, as well as yourself, deal with this change. In the end, the amount of preparation and planning that is done may determine how stressful a transition will be. This is true for your son as well as for yourself.



cmic	Feb 26 2006, 12:30 PM Post #2
Principal Posts: 1,530 Group: Members Member #217 Joined: December 11, 2005	Oh yeah! That is totally psycho babble. Blah blah...



Rose	Feb 26 2006, 03:10 PM Post #3
Principal Posts: 759 Group: Members Member #171 Joined: November 30, 2005	I think this article is trying to tell us if we talk to our kids, change will be OK. Yes, kids need to learn to adapt to change, but some children will be changing schools for the next three years. For example, a child who came to Riley this year in 7th grade will have to change to Holmes next year for 8th grade, and then to Stevenson in the 9th grade. As if these adolescents are not going through enough "change" already. Yes, I agree 5th and 6th graders also have special needs.....but don't do all children....depending on their psychosocial, mental and physcial development? Why don't we just have a school for each grade? Then we could take care of all the kid's special needs. This 5/6 configuration just does not fly with me if you are going to do something that is good for all the kids. NO 5/6!



MrTeacher	Feb 26 2006, 03:30 PM Post #4
Principal Posts: 44 Group: Members Member #113 Joined: November 12, 2005	How can you guys say this is psyco babble....it was answered by a licensed therapist. Who determines what psyco babble is??? Maybe it's really a concerned parent who has a child just like many of us, and they are grasping at straws..at least it was an answer with a solid foundation. Now, maybe it's pysco babble if it isn't a real letter, maybe sent in by someone misrepresenting themselves. Either way, it should be taken seriously. MRTEACHER



cmic	Feb 26 2006, 03:46 PM Post #5
Principal Posts: 1,530 Group: Members Member #217 Joined: December 11, 2005	MrTeacher Feb 26 2006, 03:30 PM How can you guys say this is psyco babble....it was answered by a licensed therapist. Who determines what psyco babble is??? Maybe it's really a concerned parent who has a child just like many of us, and they are grasping at straws..at least it was an answer with a solid foundation. Now, maybe it's pysco babble if it isn't a real letter, maybe sent in by someone misrepresenting themselves. Either way, it should be taken seriously. MRTEACHER We are being bombarded by this kind of information every week. This is not new. Even if it is good advice, I think many of us are just plain tired of having it thrown in our face. I also highly doubt that somebody really wrote in. I feel like this was a letter that was "set up". Anyone that has been reading the transitions news already has this advice plus more. I am very skeptical these days and that is why I consider it psycho babble. I am just tired of hearing it.



fyi	Feb 26 2006, 03:53 PM Post #6
Principal Posts: 2,738 Group: Members Member #206 Joined: December 9, 2005	I guess how you feel about the Q & A would depend on how you feel about the LI. Are you accepting the plan and looking for ways to cope with what lies ahead? I can't speak for all, it was just my interpretation. The timing of this question is a bit coincidental. Just as parents are complaining that transition activities can wait, we read about how important "planning ahead" can be. I agree with Cmic----very skeptical.



Grant1	Feb 26 2006, 04:22 PM Post #7
We have just begun to fight! Posts: 3,167 Group: Members Member #117 Joined: November 14, 2005	I would ask one simple question - for all of the money and effort LPS and the BOE are throwing at trying to "communicate" at this point, why couldn't they do it before the decision was made? It is not fair to force an issue after the fact. Give everyone the fair advantage of a vote or the community must put the democratic process to work and remove those who did not listen to the public and ignored thier own data.



NFarquharson	Feb 26 2006, 04:31 PM Post #8
Principal Posts: 4,311 Group: Members Member #103 Joined: November 9, 2005	I think it is just plain bad advice. I'm no therapist, but since it is at best unclear whether the LI will actually be implemented next year, talking with your child about the change to the new school seems pointless. Seems to me that rather than help the child deal with change to a new school, the parent should be helping the child deal with uncertainty. That's what we have right now and it can be genuinely difficult for both the parents and the kids. The reason we are sick of this is that the "psycho-babble" continues to ASSUME that the LI is a done deal.



cmic	Feb 26 2006, 04:39 PM Post #9
Principal Posts: 1,530 Group: Members Member #217 Joined: December 11, 2005	NFarquharson Feb 26 2006, 04:31 PM I think it is just plain bad advice. I'm no therapist, but since it is at best unclear whether the LI will actually be implemented next year, talking with your child about the change to the new school seems pointless. Seems to me that rather than help the child deal with change to a new school, the parent should be helping the child deal with uncertainty. That's what we have right now and it can be genuinely difficult for both the parents and the kids. The reason we are sick of this is that the "psycho-babble" continues to ASSUME that the LI is a done deal. Amen Sister!!!



klezy99	Feb 26 2006, 05:32 PM Post #10
Principal Posts: 100 Group: Members Member #75 Joined: November 2, 2005	MrTeacher Feb 26 2006, 03:30 PM How can you guys say this is psyco babble....it was answered by a licensed therapist. Who determines what psyco babble is??? Maybe it's really a concerned parent who has a child just like many of us, and they are grasping at straws..at least it was an answer with a solid foundation. Now, maybe it's pysco babble if it isn't a real letter, maybe sent in by someone misrepresenting themselves. Either way, it should be taken seriously. MRTEACHER To Mr Teacher, Where was all the INFORMATION us parents should have gotten delivered either by ( mail or sent home with our kids) WHen the DEMOLITION COMMITTEE AND THE LEGACY FORGOTTEN WAS BEING (INVENTED) SO DONT EVEN START!!!!!!!!! SO NOW THEY WANT TO SEND ALL THIS CRAP TO US ISAY BULLSH*T!! IT GOES IN THE GARBAGE!!!!!!!



klezy99	Feb 26 2006, 05:54 PM Post #11
Principal Posts: 100 Group: Members Member #75 Joined: November 2, 2005	Is is true we did not get the TRO it was denied?



MrTeacher	Feb 26 2006, 06:28 PM Post #12
Principal Posts: 44 Group: Members Member #113 Joined: November 12, 2005	klezy and everyone.. you guys amaze me...maybe you can tell I've been a member of this site for longer than many of you, but look at how many times I've posted...Why would you tell me "don't even start" Your email is like an attack, "Demolition Committee" and "Legacy Forgotten"??... Hey, I am one of you, I don't like all the transitions that the kids will go through either, but I know what it's like in the schools, and the kids are feeling it...isn't that a reality, and what "if" the LI is implemented??? Isn't it practical to be prepared? I know these are emotional issues, and I value all the posters, I read them all and I've learned a lot, just at times many of you guys just amaze me. Do you think when people get very emotional, their credibility wanes? I sometimes think many want to just attack others. Maybe to be a member..we need to take the "pragmatic" oath. Hey, I didn't start anything, maybe I should be more direct..here you go. "I do not this this is pysco babble". MrTeacher



professionalmom	Feb 26 2006, 06:42 PM Post #13
Principal Posts: 244 Group: Members Member #293 Joined: January 26, 2006	My problem lies with the O&E printing this article, considering a lawsuit is in the works. I thought the newspaper was suppposed to be unbiased. Where is their "investigative reporting" to find out where the public's money is being spent? (LPS Admin salaries versus Plymouth-Canton?? Upgrades done to schools slated to be closed? etc...etc...etc....) No one there bright enough to ask the important questions; no one there courageous enough to pursue the answers. That is why I have considered the O&E a public relations pamphlet for the district. Not a NEWSpaper!



Administrator	Feb 26 2006, 07:00 PM Post #14
Administrator Posts: 3,069 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: October 5, 2005	MrTeacher always has respectful and thoughtful posts.



LJHY	Feb 26 2006, 07:37 PM Post #15
1st Grade Posts: 9 Group: Members Member #34 Joined: October 27, 2005	Professional Mom - I have never considered the Observer to be true journalism, even before the LI. It is a great place to get current events and sports information but don't rely on it for real journalism.

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